Your Care

You can't control your feelings. In fact, you shouldn't try to. They help you work through the tough times that are part of life. They key is to use them in a positive way and not let them keep you from doing what's best for you and your baby. It is common to feel tension, anxiety, and sadness after delivery. The sudden hormone changes are thought to be a cause of postpartum depression and could be adding to your feelings. It affects some women in different ways. Be patient with yourself and realize that what you are experiencing is normal. Talk with your doctor if you cannot seem to get over these feelings.

Resting and eating well can help you strike a balance between home and the NICU. That in turn will make you a better parent for your baby. Keep your rest and sleep schedules as close to normal as you can. At this time your body is stressed; too little sleep will only make it harder to regain the strength you need to take care of yourself and your baby. Feeling tired and being quick to anger could be signs that you need more rest. Accept help from friends and family. Take others up on their offers to care for your other children, clean your house, shop, etc. Save your energy for visiting your baby.

Keep a journal of your baby's progress and write down your feelings.  Putting your thoughts on paper may make it easier to deal with them.  Look at your baby's picture. Taking pictures of your baby will help you feel closer even when you cannot be with him. It will also help you to  recognize his progress! Talk to family, NICU staff and friends; keep communication open with people who can give you comfort and strength.